Monday, November 28, 2005

A Father's Worst fear

I was all set to do a rant today after watching the story on "60 Minutes" about the "Plan B" pill. This pill can prevent pregnancy if taken within 72 hours of having sex. The FDA scientific advisory board has approved the drug for over the counter sale but the FDA President has ignored their advice and blocked it.

Now, as I said, I was all prepared to rant about legislating morality, etc... but then I got to thinking. The people who oppose this drug claim that it's not because they are pro-life but rather because the availability of the drug will lead to more promiscuous sex, which leads to more STD's, etc.

So, I want to know the truth. Ladies, if this drug had been available when you were a teenager, do you think you would have had more sex? As a follow-up, do you feel that the government should care about whether or not your daughter is a slut? Do you feel that drugs like this one will make it harder to control your daughter's raging hormones?

Seriously. I have a daughter and another on the way.


Joanne said...

I think this pill will make it easier for them to have unprotected sex and will lead to a spread of STD's. I would have used it a lot in my 20's if it was available. I think they should raise the limit of consent to 18. Canada's limit is 14 and it's a pedophile haven.

I think the government should care if my daughter is a slut, just like I should care if she is. The government in Canada ends up paying for healthcare, childcare and welfare for teenage/unwed young mothers. Which means tax payers (society) ends up paying for a horny moment in the backseat without protection... cuz what happens if the pill doesn't work?

I think if a girl is going to be a slut, she will be a slut anyway because of a lot psychological factors. I think the only way you can control your daughter's raging hormones is to teach her the proper morals when she is young...and keep your gun loaded when boys come around.

5:32 PM  
Booray said...

I'm a little confused.... You say you would have used the pill a lot in your 20's and then say that a slut will be a slut regardles of outside factors. Are you saying that you would have had MORE sex in your 20's if the pill had been available?

Do you believe that you would have had more unprotected sex as a teenager had this pill been available or is sound moral judgement unaffected by Plan B?

5:49 PM  
KC said...

I would not have had more sex in my 20's had this drug been available. Knowing that I could get pregnant did not stop me from having sex. I took the proper precautions, most of the time. But had this pill been available, I would not have said, "YES! This pill is available. I can have more sex now. FINALLY". My #1 concern in college with regards to sex was whether or not the guy was going to call me the next day.

Follow-up: I don't think the government should pass moral judgements on us, no. But I don't believe making this pill legal will produce more "sluts".

Listen, with or without this pill, people are gonna fuck. They just are. We can't stop it. They'll do it without being married. They'll do it unprotected. If anything, this pill might prevent an unwanted child from being brought into the world.

The thing is, there will *still* be plenty of people having unplanned pregancies, I would think, with or without this pill.

Still, this pill is pretty controversial, no matter what I say, and I understand the implications and why it is so.

As far as your daughters, I think part of their moral fiber will have to do with how you raise them, partly with their environment, and a lot on their individual personalities. I don't think any pill or any one thing will make them a "slut", if you even really believe in that word or can define it.

Then again, I don't think my dad had in mind that I would be promiscuous in college. And even though I was, I somehow made it through, without diseases, and without a baby (but with some heartaches). I even married one of my conquests. :)

8:59 PM  
Booray said...

Thanks for the comment, Karla. You and Joanne both talked about "college," which is fine, but personally, I don't think that the pill should be restricted at all for someone over 18. The question is: Should a 16-year-old be able to buy it as easy as she buys anything else at a drugstore. That is what the FDA voted on and what the President of the FDA vetoed.

9:12 PM  
KC said...

Yeah, I talked about college only b/c that's when I had sex. I was pretty innocent in high school (and that would not have changed had I been able to buy this pill).

I still think that 16 year olds are going to have sex with or without this pill, and I don't think the frequency of sexual activity will increase with 16 year olds having access to this pill, for the reasons I mentined before.

The same argument could be made for regular birth control pills. Did this make America more promiscuous? Maybe it did. But maybe it was liberating for women, too.

It's tough to say whether they should be able to buy without parents' consent. I generally feel that parents should be involved in their children's lives especially when they're under 18. So, I would think consent would be needed or desired. I don't know. I'm not the mother of teenagers, and haven't been a teen for some time. I hear they give blow jobs in 6th grade, what do I know?

9:30 PM  
Michele said...

Anybody who has watched Maury in the past couple of years fears what the world is coming to. I swear he completely devotes his show to Who's Your Daddy DNA test type of shows.

Had the morning after pill been available I would've taken it ... then again, had I done it I wouldn't have Emma.

I'm of the mind of my body my choice but if it's my little girl she's gonna learn to cross her legs dammit!

The hoops women have to jump through to have an abortion these days are crazy. Why not nip it in the bud and take care of it before the pain and guilt of having to have an abortion arise.

I don't want the government to know my or any one else's sexual behaviors. I don't think that I would've had more sex had I been offered this sort of drug ... I don't know if having this pill offered would curb teenage pregnancies.

Oh Christ! Now I am going to have to lock my daughters up in the basement until they're 35.

I could spout all of the ladida bullshit about how kids should be able to talk to their parents about sex but growing up I knew a girl who was very open with her mom and she still popped a kid out at 16 (and she's gone on to have atleast 4 more by 4 different guys since then). She wouldn't have taken the pill though since she *wanted* to get pregnant.

To each their own I guess.

2:36 PM  
Joanne said...

Booray: Are you saying that you would have had MORE sex in your 20's if the pill had been available?

I think I would have had the same amount. I just wouldn't have been as careful if the pill was accessible. I would have taken the pill more often and I would have had more unprotected sex in my 20's.

Booray: Do you believe that you would have had more unprotected sex as a teenager had this pill been available or is sound moral judgement unaffected by Plan B?

I never had sex as a teenager. I was a good girl in high school. It really depends on the person,what their ideals are and what the situation was. Maybe she is raped? Should she have access to the pill?... there's all kinds of scenarious that play out.

I think that if you teach your daughter values and morals you're a step ahead. Have her plan out what she would do in certain situations... Then just really hope for the best. I think that's all you really can do.

6:54 PM  
Barsel/Bazzle said...

there's a million scenarios that could happen. I'm going to say I wouldn not be a promiscuous as a raccoon but that it's comforting tho know the drug is there "just in case".

11:52 AM  
Barsel/Bazzle said...

wow my typing skills are shot, let's try this again...

Having just turned 20 and still being the "good girl" , I would say no because that's just who I am. I did a half hour presentation a few years ago about the two types of pills and their effects on people. I know it's not my place to tell people what they should tell their kid, but my advice is just to let them know the pill is there (a just in case if all else fails preventative, because accidents do happen). I think your kids will be fine as long as you let them know the facts.

12:00 PM  
Booray said...

Thanks for the comment, barsel/bazzle. Do you have a blog?

12:51 PM  

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